When You Are Not Having Fun Right Now
Life is, well… life.
My friend said to me the other day, "Life is not always fun. It has times when it is hard, and other times when it is great, or it is both good and bad at the same time. That is just life." She is so right!
I have really been struggling to write about and share my experience of the last few years, especially the last year. I tend to compare my past with my present, such as: "Well, I'm healthy; no one is sick or dying, so I have no right to feel bad." Does it have to be that extreme to allow ourselves some grace to feel our feelings of loss, grief, or sadness about our current challenges?
I am a two-time breast cancer survivor. I have experienced the long terminal illnesses of family members and was able to be there for them as they transitioned out of this life. I have had love relationships end and new ones begin, long periods without a man to love, financial hardships, and loss of work; all these experiences seemed to go on forever. But the thing is, they did end. I grieved, I cried, I moved locations, I let go, but I did not close my heart or my love for being alive. I even had bouts where depression hit hard, and yes, medicine and counseling did help.
It wasn't until I found my footing as a Soul Therapist, Past Life Regressionist, and Generational Healer® that I fully understood that I cannot control what life throws at me, only my response to it. We come into this life with a set of Archetypes representing the qualities we would like to embody or overcome in this life when we design it, such as the Healer or the Warrior. Everyone chooses their own Archetypes, and each one of us has our own unique Archetype wheel of our own design. However, there are four Archetypes that every human comes in with as part of their set of twelve. All of us, no one escapes them, must deal with these in this life.
The Child: How do you care for and treat your inner child? Do you love, honor, and listen to her or him, or do you ignore or scorn them? Pretend you don't hear their desires? Are you embarrassed by them? How you treat your inner child gives you insight into how you treat yourself and your past. Do you maintain your childlike curiosity and joy, which are the keys to manifesting and attracting good things? Or do you act so adult that you've lost the magic and your sense of wonder in the beauty around you?
The Prostitute: How are you with money? What would you do for money? What would you never do for money? Do you believe in abundance and the energy of money as an exchange and a flow? How you deal with money is how money shows up for you, and how you experience it in your life.
The Saboteur: How do you sabotage yourself? How can you shift this part of yourself so you allow yourself all of your desires and dreams without sabotaging them or yourself?
The Victim: How do you play victim in your life? Do you take responsibility for your life, your life experiences, and how you overcome your hardships, your responses to life? How do you change your story? How do you heal your past so you don't have to be a victim of it?
Being the captain of your life is the goal. You are not a rudderless ship without someone to pilot the boat. You've got this. You can steer your life in the direction you want it to go. You have the controls.
I have a lot of experience with the Victim Archetype. However, each time I feel like a victim of the Universe, the Gods, God, the job, a person, my Guides, my body, and I could go on and on, I go back to reminding myself that every experience has added to the fabric of my life and has made me a better healer and Soul Therapist. Overcoming my many life challenges has made me emotionally strong, capable, a survivor, someone who can love deeply and isn't afraid of getting her heart broken, who jumps in with both feet and sees what's next. Every door that closed, every experience that was just not working, has led to something better, such as the opportunity to work from home and to work with people who were like family for nine years, who cared about me; I loved them, and they loved me. That freedom allowed me to serve others with the flexibility I needed to show up and be present for my Soul Therapy clients.
The last year has been an exceptionally challenging time for me, with some life-altering changes that I felt guided to make, such as moving to a new apartment, taking a new opportunity that was not the right fit, and landing in a nice new place to work. However, with each step, I learned how much I was loved, and that my friends and family were there for me, supporting me and encouraging me. I was never alone. Ever. I also did not let myself fail. I kept picking myself up, dusting myself off, working out, getting up on time, doing all the next right things, asking for help when I needed it, and I kept on keeping on. I did not leave everything up to the Universe, "hoping" for the best. I made it happen.
One more thing you must have is a backup plan to pivot to. I call it "pulling the plug." Why keep doing something that is not working when maybe you are supposed to be doing something else? So this time, I had a backup plan with a hard end date, an actual date on the calendar, for how long I was willing to be in that situation. The resolution and new opportunity showed up and were finalized exactly on that hard end date.
This proved once again that the Universe provides and is on your side. It also proved that a successful life is about living, striving, setting goals and hard end dates, working with your inner guidance, and allowing life to deliver the abundance you are calling in, sometimes right under the wire. Everything is possible. Everything goes back to mindset, action, and making sure you don't have any subconscious thoughts or stuck energy in the way of receiving the abundance you desire. If you do, seek out healing, coaching, a Soul Therapist, or a type of healing that is calling out to you, which will move the energy, open your heart, and help you get unstuck from those repeating thoughts and patterns; then watch your life transform.
You don't have to do it alone. You are loved more than you know.
Love & light,
Carolyn
